"...Noted, I guess. I may not be Barrayaran - but as a matter of personal policy I try not to lie outside of extreme circumstances. You aren't proposing to wedge me into any extreme circumstances. I'm not saying that if I make oaths it will hold up against unanticipable pressures on me long after the fact, but if I make them at all it will be because I mean them at that time. Which, in the case of - what is a groat? - in the case of the Barrayaran marriage ceremony would include strongly expecting not to want a passel of extramarital affairs."