"My expectations... are a more complicated question," he says. "I mean - if we get married the Barrayaran way, I give my personal oath to be your husband and no one else's - 'spouse and helpmeet, forsaking all others' is the exact phrasing - also 'for as long as we both shall live', but that doesn't rule out divorce as an option, we'd just have to show up in Father's court and ask, not that I'm advocating this, you understand, I just think it's fair to give you all the relevant information - anyway, but that just governs my expectations of me; my expectations of you are mostly... not."